I have my dogs that cooperate with me. Many say they are remote controlled based on the amount of control and cooperation i have with my dogs.
What did i do? I treated them like my children. I got cross when they didn’t do what i want, i got disappointed when they didn’t understand me. I got frustrated when things never came closer to the desired actions. My dogs got scared of me, they lost interest in doing what i asked, they got frustrated with me. With time i worked through my mistakes with them and fixed what i caused, i built their desire to work with me. I taught them that i wasn’t perfect. I taught them that i was cross and disappointed and frustrated with myself. Did this and does this effect my dogs? Of course but with the mistakes i make, work is put in to make the problems better and make my dogs understand that it is not them.
With me not being perfect, with all my mistakes and the work that i put into fixing them i built trust. But i didn’t only build trust, i taught them to think for themselves and help me. This built my trust in them. This gave them the ultimate reward. The reward of success. The reward of responsibility and achievement. The feeling of me being proud of them. I got cooperation from my dogs by teaching them that i am proud of them. And even more proud of them when they think for them selves and solve problems, no matter how many they cause by trying to solve them.
When they ask for something i try to accommodate their desires, and they show understanding. They get rewards, randomly for being good dogs, they get reprimanded when they are pushing the boundaries, they see me get cross when i let them down or miss handle a situation. It’s about life, living and learning.
A lesson i learnt that has made the difference in my dog training is one a psychologist once taught me. When one takes the place on the podium. There will be a time they fall, this time will result in disappointment from those who looked up to you and that is what leads to the greatest respect as we don’t see flaws in each other just places that need more help and support then others.